PROFILE OF THE BATTERER

1. Jealousy -- often imagines partner is having affairs

2. Tries to isolate partner

3. Tries to control partner

4. Jekyll and Hyde personalities

5. May have other problems with the law -- or may not

6. Explosive temper; flies into rage without provocation

7. Tells partner it is all his/her fault; projects own faults onto partner

8. Verbal abuse in addition to physical abuse (insults, put-downs, name-calling)

9. Comes from family where violence was practiced

10. May be more violent when partner is pregnant or soon after giving birth

11. Denies the beatings, or minimizes their severity; seems not to remember

12. Will do whatever it takes to drive partner away, then whatever it takes to
get him/her back: grab the kids; apologize profusely; send him/her flowers;
cry real tears; promise anything (I'll go to church, or I’ll go to counseling,
I’ll stop drinking, I’ll never hit you again, etc.)

13. Once partner returns, performance is repeated: whatever it takes to drive
him/her away, followed by whatever it takes to get him/her back..